How To Be More Committed

In this episode we're going to talk about finding commitment, what it means to be committed and how to make better choices. Transcription below.

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Ep_108_How_to_be_more_committed

Hey there, funnel builders. Welcome back to the Sell Your Service show. Mike Killen here from sell your service today. I want to talk to you about commitment last week on the podcast, we talked about, you know, defining a niche and rediscovering a niche.

[00:00:15] And I mentioned at the end that I would talk a little bit about commitment because I think when you find a niche, you know, and you find a market you want to go after there's that initial period where you're like, yeah, this is it. This is the market that I'm going to go after. This is the market I'm going to capture. And then you quickly realize it's actually really difficult to find anyone. No one wants to buy.

[00:00:38] No, one's got any money. Everyone's really busy. And you kind of, your, your enthusiasm dies off. So I wanted today to talk about. How to be more committed or at least how to know that you're committed to the right things and how to stick to that commitment. I remember being told, I don't know, uh, probably 10 years ago.

[00:01:02] I can't really remember now when I quit my job as a chef and it was like, ah, you know, young people today that don't have any grit, they don't have any determination, you know, there's no, um, there's no, I suppose sticktuitiveness. Which I never know of is a real word, but anyway, that kind of stuff and the truth is, yeah, I actually couldn't hack being a chef truthfully.

[00:01:21] I wasn't committed to it. And I'm going to talk about what I think the true definition of commitment is because there's a lot of stuff out there. And commitment seems to be, you know, rolled in with a bunch of other kinds of definitions. And I think what people are really looking for is everything from, you know, discipline to motivation.

[00:01:43] To, um, you know, doubling down and betting on yourself. So that's what I want to talk about today because with my Scheffing job, it was really easy for me to quit. And I would argue I did the right thing. I would argue that I did quit, but I also don't doubt that had I had the same mindset that I do today.

[00:02:06] I would have stuck to it and found some kind of success with it there as well. And therein lies. The problem is where do you find success? And if commitment is the path to success, I believe a lot of people are trying to find the right path as opposed to understanding that commitment. Isn't really the path commitment is the choice to walk it in the first place.

[00:02:32] If you struggle with commitment, Or if you want to be more committed, that's what we're going to be talking about on, uh, on this show right now. So I suppose the first question would be then why do you want to be more committed? Why do you want to feel that you want to give yourself more to something or give more of yourself to something?

[00:02:55] Let's take a few different examples here. Commitment to a marriage, really classic one. Uh, we got married last year. And what was funny is a lot of people said, well, you know, you don't really feel that much different. And I disagree. I actually, I made a really conscious decision to understand the gravity and the weight of.

[00:03:19] Th th th the, the bond of marriage. And I think a lot of people see marriage as this commitment that, you know, we sign up to. And I think some there's still a trope. There's still a certain stereotype that men are forced into it. I was over the moon that someone wanted to spend that much time with me, frankly.

[00:03:38] I was, I can't, I couldn't believe that someone wanted to spend 24 hours a day with me, cause I can be really hard work and that. There's always this funny thing around marriage. And I remember a lot of people, like I said, saying, well, you never really feel any different. And I did partly because it is the most significant legal undertaking you will ever go through.

[00:03:59] Uh, it's more significant than buying a house. In my opinion, the financial implications, the insurance implications, just the tax implications, you know, the moral implications, the family implications. I think there's an enormous weight to marriage. Then you've got going to the gym and people love the idea of committing to the gym.

[00:04:23] And we've all been there. We will go through that moment where like, Oh yeah, I'm enjoying this. And it's hard work. I'm sweating. It's difficult, you know, but I'm going to commit, I'm going to double down and commit to this. And within two weeks we're like, Ugh, I'm sick of this. Again. Same with dieting.

[00:04:38] You're dieting. And you've changed or, or you've changed your diet, I should say, rather than dieting. Cause you already have a diet just might be a bad one, but you're changing your diet. And again, a week into it, you're like, ah, I'm sick of this. And then you've got commitment to the business. And in some respects that's harder because I think a lot of us don't necessarily, I have a specific goal in mind.

[00:05:04] We've kind of gone from one extreme to the other marriage. It's a very clear commitment. And I think that marriage would probably be people's number one, example of what commitment is, but it doesn't really have like a set goal. It's not like it's like all the goal is to be married for 10 years and to have at least a 90% success and approval rate throughout, throughout those 10 years, some people are like, no, I just want to have a happy relationship and find someone I want to settle down with.

[00:05:33] It's much more fluid. On the other side, it might be, yeah. I want to lose, you know, 10 kilos or 10 pounds or 20 pounds or whatever, or I want to go to the gym every day. I just want to get fitter and you have more like hyper specific goals and being in a business kind of falls in the middle. Some of it's like I want to make, I want to have a million dollar business.

[00:05:53] I want to have a business that turns over a million dollars and has at least, you know, $400,000 in profit. I want to hire three people and then you also have really, I just want to look after my family. I want to enjoy what I do. I want to give back to the community. I want to, I want to do something constructive and leave a bit of a legacy.

[00:06:13] And I don't think that commitment has necessarily got anything to do with what the goal is. But I think having a goal is certainly a massive part of it. I'm gonna actually skip ahead. I've got this in my notes. I've got a ton of stuff. I'm going to skip ahead of it here. I looked up, I tried to find stuff on commitment and it's actually quite difficult to find content stories, you know, definitions on commitment because it's such a broad term.

[00:06:45] You've got things like discipline. You've got focus. You've got drive. You've got motivation. You've got grit. Sticktuitiveness. You've got all of these things sort of bundled in. And yet, if I look at the, uh, kind of the definitions here of commitment, we've got one here saying the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause activity, et cetera.

[00:07:10] So we've got dedicated in there as well. I'm going to put that in there. Dedicated. Another one was an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action, which was really interesting to me because I think commitment and discipline discipline is our new term discipline, discipline, and motivation.

[00:07:32] Give you freedom. I think discipline equals freedom. Motivation equals freedom so that there was some interesting there. Interesting kind of dynamics there. And then, uh, what was the other one? Uh, definition of commitment is a promise or agreement to do something. An example of commitment is marriage. I was like, these are really trite examples, because we all know when we look at someone who has achieved something.

[00:08:03] And anything and anything, whatever. It might be, everything from, you know, becoming a president or prime minister or premier or whatever, all the way down to starting a business, making a million dollars, you know, becoming really good at something, losing weight, whatever it is. And people will say, well, what's your secret?

[00:08:21] And it usually revolves around or boils down to something along the lines of commitment. And yet I was kind of like, well, I want to find more stories of commitment. And I came across these like, kind of. These kind of bullshit, semi philosophical fable type stories about mice and cats and people drowning and stuff.

[00:08:40] And I was like, none of this really sums up what I think commitment is one of the best examples. I believe of commitment, both in a positive and a negative light, because the point is not to want to be more committed. It's knowing what you're committed to. If you've looked at something like shark tank or Dragon's den.

[00:08:59] You get a ton of investors come a ton of inventors and business owners come in. And then every once in a while you have some maniac comes in and says, what I've got here is I have a, I've got a personal invention and you know, you just looking at them, you're like, I know that this is going to be mental and sure enough, he says, yeah, you know, my name is Mike Killen and I've created a pen with a torch in it.

[00:09:23] So you can write in the dark. And they're like, I'm looking for 150,000 for 5%. And the sharks are like, what are you talking about? Hadn't they say, well, how long have you been working on this? And he's like, Oh, I've been working on this for 25 years. And everyone's like, you need to just dump this business and move on.

[00:09:42] But they're so committed to it that they decide to, uh, ignore their advice and go ahead and, and either become a millionaire or kind of bankrupt themselves into destitution. That's example of commitment. That's a perfect example of commitment because I believe the definition of commitment is finding reasons to keep going, not finding reasons to quit.

[00:10:09] I believe that is what the definition of commitment is for better or for worse against good judgment or bad judgment. Commitment is finding reasons to keep going, not finding reasons to quit commitment to your marriage is really easy at the start. I mean, we've only been married, like, I don't know. A year and a month or something like that.

[00:10:34] So it's relatively easy for us to still be like super committed to each other. Although there are stories of people who like, fuck up their marriage straight away, don't they like they're married for like four weeks or something. So we've beaten them, which is good. But that level of commitment, whatever happens during that you think, well, do I want to keep finding reasons to stick with it or do I want to keep finding reasons to quit?

[00:10:56] I'm a firm believer that people get what they want. And the easiest way of finding out what they want is finding out where they are. Now, if someone is constantly in a state of bad relationships, always injured, or is ill, everything happens to them. You know, they're miserable all the time. Life is unfair, you know, they're never in control of anything.

[00:11:19] If they're in that state. Now I'll guarantee that there'll be in that state in the future. And that's usually a really good indicator that they are looking for reasons. To continue having that future. If you get married and you get divorced super quickly, I'll guarantee that on a tape level, you wanted to get divorced super quickly and you ended up looking for reasons to quit.

[00:11:44] And the reason we use marriage is that thing of commitment is because it's easy to break that commitment depending on what it is most, you know, most marriages, I don't even know this okay. In our marriage. For example, if I went off and slept with a prostitute or someone at the office live, it'd be pretty pissed.

[00:12:00] Right. Rightly so, because that would be against the commitment that I had made to her. Okay. Now it would then be up to us. It's not like a deep confession, by the way, I haven't done this. This is not my confessional booth. If I had done that, the commitment then comes we'll. Do we keep finding reasons to keep going or reasons to quit?

[00:12:19] Now that was up to me as well. In this hypothetical situation, have I found a reason to quit and a big part of commitment I've found is foregoing or delaying immediate gratification. If we take our business. We're committed to a Nisha. We find a niche and we say, great, I'm only going to work with, um, authors who have published at least five books, uh, to see if we can, you know, create some kind of membership system or a course or something, I don't know.

[00:12:50] Right. And if you say, okay, that's what I'm going to commit to. And then the first campaign you launch sucks. No one buys. No one's interested. Do you then look at that situation and think, well, now I know of a way that doesn't work. I got some feedback from people saying I wouldn't buy it because of, you know, a, B and C and people said I didn't have enough credibility.

[00:13:14] Great. That's awesome. That's people telling you how to fix it and go to the next one. But a lot of people will find reasons to quit and they'll say it didn't work. We spent a load of money. Um, we put a lot of time and energy. It was embarrassing not having it work out. That is an example of someone finding a reason to quit.

[00:13:35] And a really easy example of finding someone who wasn't committed. I believe the world would be a much better place. If people were more open about what they were committed to, there is nothing more infuriating than someone feigning commitment to a cause or to some situation. What was it? A cause or an activity, et cetera, the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause activity, et cetera.

[00:14:01] What else is there? Cause activity, I suppose you'd be committed to a niche, commit to the business, commit to a relationship, find great, and always finding reasons to not do it. Like do just, I'd rather you be honest and say that your not really into this, like, honestly, that's, that's kind of, that that would be a, that would be more kind of productive and effective for us to do that.

[00:14:27] And going to the gym and doing that kind of stuff is exactly the same. You go, ah, it's dark outside. I don't feel great. I'm achy from Dom's like yesterday I did something like a 60. I can't remember now it was at 60 chest to bar, like pull-ups 60, uh, like what we call GHD sit-ups loads of stuff. Right?

[00:14:53] Those are dumb stuff at the gym. And. Today, my abs and chest were on fire. Like I tried, I tried to sit up. It would be really easy for me to then say, well, the excuse I'm looking for is I want to quit. I don't want to do the work today. I want to do the gym today. So I'm going to find this reason to quit, or I can flip that and find a reason to keep going.

[00:15:16] I can say, well, if I keep going next time I do that, it won't be as painful. It won't be as sore and I can get better and faster and stronger next time. Same with the business. When things are going wrong, same with your marriage. When things are going wrong, you can either find ways to see, see that as ways to keep going or see that as ways to quit commitment.

[00:15:39] Isn't something I think that comes because of the strength of the cause. I think that's a huge misnomer. I think we have this fantasy. That people will suddenly have this epiphany moment where all of a sudden, you know, you know your cause and you know, that, that what you need to be dedicated to. If people ever say, Oh, I had this epiphany moment that I was going to become the leader of this business, or this was the business I was going to run.

[00:16:10] They didn't get there or get, or achieve the greatness or achieve the result because they had that epiphany moment. They're there because they committed to that Tiffany moment, epiphany moments of sudden clarity and overwhelming almost, you know, borderline, uh, spiritual awakening are a dime a dozen. They happen to so many people all the time.

[00:16:32] They usually happen at night time. Notice this, they usually happen at night time. You're lying in bed and you're like, you know what? I'm going to, I get up at five 30 tomorrow, I'm going to record a podcast, write a blog post, get that book started, go on a three mile run, come home and then have breakfast.

[00:16:48] And then I'm going to start the day. And then sure enough, what time did I say I was going to wake up five 30, six, five, 29 rolls around and you're like, Oh my God. Why did I say that? Everyone has those epiphany moments. Everyone has those epiphany moments. Commitment is seeing it through. And I don't think commitment does restrict freedom of action because some of the examples give them a like, Oh, you're committed to a dentist appointment now.

[00:17:16] To you. And I, it might sound obvious that if you've booked a dentist appointment, then yeah, you go to the dentist appointment, but I can assure you, there is an enormous segment of the world and the population who will book a dentist appointment for whatever reason, either to shut their family up because they know they're supposed to, because their doctor told them to their partner, told them to whatever, and then they will find reasons to not go they'll find a ton of reasons to not go.

[00:17:41] It happens all the time. And I think you can find out what people are committed to by asking what their reasons to skip doing something are or what the reasons to not do something. Our commitment might also be, I'm just going to keep doing it. I haven't seen reasons to quit. It's not even that I've seen reasons to keep going, but I haven't seen reasons to quit.

[00:18:07] I can't see a reason to quit. And again for better or for worse, some people have businesses that they really should just take out the back and shoot. They need to put it down, but they don't. Some people are in relationships where both sides just need to walk away and yet they're committed to it because they keep finding reasons to stay at it.

[00:18:29] Or they don't have any reasons to quit. At least not strong enough reasons to quit. And when we have this kind of. You know, epiphany style awakening. We're like, Oh my God, it's so clear. This is what I should be going after. This is the niche I should be going after. You're still going to have problems.

[00:18:50] You're still going to have barriers and roadblocks. It's not about finding ways to avoid problems. Or committing to something which has the, the least potential problems or the fewest problems. It's not about being smart about what you commit to it's about being committed. I think a lot of people see commitment as like the equivalent of drive or focus.

[00:19:17] And I've talked in the past about discipline and motivation. How motivation is that sort of initial. Emotional impulse, that, that epiphany style awakening where you're like, yeah, you know, I'm going to stand up for this, or I'm going to do this, or I'm going to, I'm going to commit to this and I'm going to, I'm going to have a go at this, but actually motivation is a dime a dozen.

[00:19:37] I think discipline is what works out. Discipline equals freedom. Everyone has periods of motivation. The way that I've split, this is that motivation is doing something. When you want to do something. Discipline is doing something when you don't want to do something. And that's what shows commitment.

[00:19:55] That's what shows dedication. And maybe you're looking at your business or your life. And you're thinking I don't have the results I want. I don't, I don't have the lifestyle I want. I'm not where I want to be, which I suppose would be unhappy. You're you are unhappy. There is unhappiness there. When you look at that.

[00:20:18] Ask yourself, is that because of a lack of commitment and then above that, is it because there's no goal for all their whining and moaning? People are really quick to say why they're unhappy, but then when you ask them, okay, well, what's, what's, what's their end goal? What are you not? What do you not have?

[00:20:35] They're unable to give an answer. It happens all the time. All the time. People are unhappy with work unhappy with their job. They're happy with their business are happy with their marriage. We've got a dog. You, maybe you heard her a minute ago and uh, I have to be committed to this dog, right? I have to be committed to Coco.

[00:20:57] My dog. He's a labradoodle, by the way, three years old. I love her to pieces, but sometimes she can be an absolute animal. Um, but I have to be committed to her. I have to be committed to her because it'd be really easy for me to find reasons to give up on him. And when people are like, why aren't you happy with how she acts?

[00:21:15] And recently she's got into this thing where she'll like immediately run over to other dogs and she knows she's not supposed to partly because she's a big dog and she's quite intimidating, but also I don't want her running over to other dogs. And the question was, well, don't think about what don't you want her to do?

[00:21:33] Think about what do you want it to do? I'm like, Oh, that's a good point. That's a good question. So I want it to stick with me or at least check with me before she goes off and plays with other dogs. Having that goal is the start to being more committed. How many people do, you know, uh, sick and tired of their job?

[00:21:50] They're like, Oh, I hate my manager. I hate my boss. Hey, my work hate the customers. I hate my colleagues. I hate the staff. Hate the team. Hate the supplies. I hate all of that. You go, okay. Well, do you want to, do you want to change anything? What do you want to change? What, what is the goal? What would you like?

[00:22:05] And they're unable to give an answer. You go, Oh, I don't really know. I haven't really thought about it. Well, it's almost impossible for you to do anything about it, then it does what you re what you really want is just to moan and have other people say, Oh, poor you. Um, yeah, that, that horrible man, isn't he awful?

[00:22:23] That's a victim mentality as well. And it's interesting. I reckon there's a huge, um, Correlation between the victim mentality and a lack of commitment. I reckon they'd be an enormous, if you could do a, they could do some sort of study. I reckon you would find that people who are typically have a victim mentality also struggle with commitment.

[00:22:46] And the reason they struggle with commitment is probably because they don't have a goal, but then we come back to this point of you tend to have what you want. You might not have all of it yet, but you tend to have it. I'm confident that at some point we'll be flush with cash and super, super wealthy. I know that to the point, uh, Casey Neistat says, um, he's always known he was going to be a millionaire.

[00:23:14] He just didn't always have the money. Like he's always been a millionaire. He just didn't always have the money. And I believe the same thing. I'm comfortable and confident that at some point I'll be a millionaire. I just don't have the money about it. I just didn't have the physical cash right now.

[00:23:28] Searching for the reasons why someone is the way they are a really good way of looking at that is, well, what are they committed to? And a lot of people are committed to staying where they are not sticking their neck out. Um, having life kind of happened around them. Some people are committed to being a victim and they'll find reasons to stick to that sooner, as much as they're not committed to.

[00:23:56] Yeah, bettering themselves or changing their life, whatever they are committed to the negative side. And you can absolutely be committed to that. And remember that the definition, which I believe is most accurate commitment is about finding reasons to keep going, not finding reasons to quit. They want to keep going as a victim.

[00:24:14] They want to keep doing it. They don't want to quit being a victim. And if you're struggling with commitment, if you're struggling with. Knowing where and how to be more focused. A really classic example would be you sat down at your desk, you know, you want to hammer out this blog post or whatever. And something pops up a notification pops up or whatever, and you're like, Oh, now I'm going to do that.

[00:24:39] I would say, yeah, you're struggling with commitment to the business. Another business opportunity comes along or another niche idea or another, a sales process or product or something that you could sell and you think, Oh, maybe I could sell that. And you know, that it's straying away, but you're like, you tell yourself these bullshit reasons, like no I'm diversifying, right?

[00:24:58] Whatever that is finding reasons to quit. That is openly finding reasons to quit. And if your end goal isn't important enough, then you will. But I don't believe that there is such a thing as an end goal that is inherently so powerful that it will make you more committed. You make the conscious decision.

[00:25:21] As I mentioned earlier, to forego or delay immediate gratification, this take this, take the example of my biological parents, right? My mother hyper committed to my brother and I super, super committed. She made the conscious decisions to follow through on that commitment worked three or four jobs managed to separate from my biological father, divorced, um, you know, got, you know, just shit, low paying jobs to pay our way through university and then got a job as a teacher because she knew that well she'd then be able to spend time with us during the holidays and was all of it easy.

[00:26:00] Absolutely not with Samuel. I have a grateful. Well, we are now extremely so, but at the time, definitely not. We just took it for granted. And the other hand you have biological father, exact same situation, not at all committed. It was, it was too much hard work and you see that play out. It's not always a father, mother thing.

[00:26:20] I know plenty of mothers who aren't committed to their children. I know plenty of fathers who are extremely dedicated. Um, it's not a mother-father thing. It's a person thing. But you, you have these ideas in your head and you're like, well, of course you would be committed to that course. You would be committed to your children or to education or to your weight loss or to business or whatever, but people aren't, people are not always committed.

[00:26:45] And I don't think it's the goal that creates that commitment. Another good example is that sort of righteous indignation, that teenagers get, I'm having a go at teenagers and I apologize, but, and I think everyone gets this to an extent, in fact, I'll tell you who's really common with this middle-aged men.

[00:27:03] They have that righteous indignation where they read something in some bullshit tabloid or. You know, teenagers read on, on, on Reddit or whatever. And they're like, Oh my God, this is disgraceful. Do you know what Coca Cola does to water plantations and, uh, Wells in India, or they've hear about, you know, immigration or whatever.

[00:27:22] And they get really up in arms and they're sick about it. Absolutely disgraceful as a wrong with our country's wrong with our politicians. Absolutely awful. And. You go, okay, cool. Are you going to, you're going to commit yourself and dedicate to that. So many drop off, so many drop off. I've done it. We've all done that.

[00:27:38] It's, it's not a, it's not having a go at one type of person that has an adolescent thing that it's called righteous indignation where, you know, sparks off this immediately, but it dies off pretty, pretty quickly. All right. Partly because it's a bit of a ball like doing it. You know, committing to consistently changing your diet, your purchasing habits, you know, how much plastic you use or whatever is a ball Lake, but that's the point, not the goal.

[00:28:08] That's easy. It's not like you're keep coming back to it going. Yeah. Remember of doing the right thing. No one thinks that a hundred percent of the time, and it's the same with your business. There are going to be times when everything is staring you in the face, saying your wrong, and you've got to double down on yourself.

[00:28:24] You've got to commit to yourself and gamble on yourself. You've got to take that gamble on yourself and bet on yourself and say, no, I think I'm making the right decision. All evidence points to the contrary, but I'm going to keep finding reasons to go on

[00:28:40] and finding reasons to keep going sometimes is not even as important as not finding reasons to quit. Anyone can wake up and think, Oh, I feel groggy. I'm not into this. I really don't want to do anything today. I'm not saying that people shouldn't get take time off, you know, look after themselves

[00:29:06] at tall, actually, but taking. A way in quitting on things that you said you were going to commit to, or finding reasons might just show that you're not that committed. And like I said, it's not the goal. It's not the goal is, is always the, the motivation. Sometimes it's going to be the pure fact you think, well, I know I can't quit.

[00:29:29] I know that I can't quit on this. Having a campaign that doesn't work out system, you know, you've been doing something for three years and it's still where you are. Have a look at what you're committed to. A lot of people say I'm so dedicated, I'm sick and tired them. Um, I'm where I am five years ago.

[00:29:48] Basically I've been working my balls off in my business and again, find out what you're committed to and a really good way of finding out what you're committed to is looking at your calendar. And first we go, why would I? There's nothing in my calendar. Pretty good sign that you're not that committed to anything then.

[00:30:07] Because it's all over the place. Or if you do look at your calendar and it's all over the place, you've got other people's appointments, other people's commitments, other people's, um, you know, meetings and activities and you think, well, yeah, I'm not displaying commitment to my own business. I'm displaying commitment to myself.

[00:30:26] I would argue that the reason I've been able to demonstrate commitment to my business is because the first two hours of every day, I dedicated to my business. It's beyond that it's actually dedicated to my role. I didn't even have my team contact me during that point because I need to guarantee two hours every single day to do the things that grow the business.

[00:30:48] We talked about those core functions and core questions earlier on like a few weeks ago. If you haven't listened to those, go back and listen to them. I did a series of three, your core niche, core function, or your core role and the core question. And you think, well, Have I guaranteed or committed to that core function, have I found and committed one hour a week, one hour, a day, 10 hours a day, whatever to that one thing.

[00:31:16] And that was something that my mum was really, really, really, really good at. She puts stuff in the calendar to dedicate time with us. Whereas most people will be like, well, I've got kids. Of course I hang out with them. She found she was doing so much other stuff that she had to physically say between five and six is family time or whatever it was.

[00:31:37] And that came first. That was what went in the calendar first. And for a long time, nothing else went in her calendar for her work, uni uni bit more work, hanging out with the kids. And I guess it still boils down to that question. What do you want. What do you want? What's the goal? What do you want to stick to?

[00:32:01] Even when there are problems? Because there will be problems. There will be things that sway your commitment. There'll be days when you don't feel like it, where the weather will be. Shit where the other day, last week. Oh my God. Last week our went downstairs. It was pitch black already. I was like, Ugh. Went into the conservators.

[00:32:26] What? Right. I'm going to use the row machine and do my workout hubs on the row. Machine pulled one stroke and the monitor was broken. It wouldn't come on. I was like, Oh my God, you've got to be joking. It's like, fine. I'll just put a timer on. And I'll just do whatever it was. 10 minutes or something like that.

[00:32:41] I was like, I'll just figure it out. I was like, well, at least I can come upstairs and do my work. Tell him my PC, nothing took it out. Uh, took my PC out, took it apart to the case off. And the graphics card had literally set fire Google, uh, 10 80 Nvidia and the I DEA, uh, 10 80 Titan or TEI, um, fire or burst into flames apparently is a known problem.

[00:33:09] Like it's a model problem. And that's what happened. My graphics got literally burst into flames and I was like, Oh, I'm done. It was about nine 30 in the morning by that point. And I was like, put me to bed. I am done with the day. I'm not saying that days like that aren't going to happen, but commitment is finding reasons to keep going, not finding reasons to quit earlier this week, there was a storm in the Philippines.

[00:33:36] That's so bad that it had flooding. They've had to evacuate people. I believe Vietnam has even had, um, Awfully they've had fatalities because of it, which is atrocious. And, uh, my VA Clarence, she sent me an email and said, Hey, um, I just wanted to let you know that there's going to be a storm. I'm going to have to take the Monday off.

[00:33:56] I was like, obviously now above commitment, everything obviously commitment to your family and safety and security is a hundred percent more important, but. Even then she was like, yeah, but the power we've got a generator, so I can still do some work tomorrow. I was like, now that's commitment. That's finding reasons to keep doing stuff.

[00:34:14] That's finding reasons to keep going, not finding reasons to quit. I know people who have come into the office realized they haven't forgotten. They've forgotten their charger for their laptop and thought I'm done. I'm going home. And I'm like, you could still do like some work, a few hours work like yeah.

[00:34:29] But you know, I'd have to plug it in at some point. And like what, what kind of commitment is that? And that's when you find out, well, they're not really that committed and I'm like fine, but own the fact that you're not that committed, right? Isn't that better to say, I'm just not committed to this. I just, I don't care about this.

[00:34:48] And when you do find something which you care about, continue caring about it and sticking to it. It's not about finding ways to avoid problems. It's not about committing to the easy thing it's about. It's about committing to something and keep doing it. Even when things are going wrong. Like I said, it's a conscious decision to forego or delay immediate gratification.

[00:35:11] And commitment is about finding reasons to keep going, not finding reasons to quit guys, thank you so much for spending some time with me and listening to the cellular service show. Remember you can hit the, sell your service pod.com for all the previous episodes. We're trying to upload more transcripts as well.

[00:35:27] We are slowly working our way through that. This one should have a transcript, which I'm quite excited about. Uh, and in the meantime, I will see you. On the next episode, or hear you on the next episode, head over to sell your service.co.uk forward slash Facebook to be a part of it. The Facebook group, I remember youtube.com forward slash show your service.

[00:35:46] So I've got all my videos as well. Massively. Appreciate you spending some time with me and the meantime guys, thank you so much. Have courage commit and take action.

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